“Act as if.”
You can probably figure out what it means, but I’ll nonetheless offer a little furtherance: Act as if means to play pretend with hope that your feelings and life follow the intent.
“ You might also say “Fake it ’til you make it.”
It’s so simple—it’s playing pretend—yet so much resistance arises (for me, at least) in implementing the behavior.
This is not support group mumbo jumbo, these are scientifically-backed mottos.
You’ve probably heard how smiling actually makes people happier or people with botox literally become less angry overall because they are less able to make angry faces.
These are just a few ways psychologists have proven that we are much more able to influence our feelings with our actions than we think.
I’ve been working on inhabiting this space, this life, as a writer for about eight months now.
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When I began writing this blog October, it was for the premeditated purpose of gaining an audience for when my book launched.
All the authors whom I’d listened to in interviews said that this was the main thing they would’ve done differently if they were starting over fresh because the email audience turned out to be their top buyers.
Being the go-getter that I am, I rode the coattails of their mistakes all the way to town.
Well, I mean, it’s a small town; I don’t have many subscribers.
But it turns out I wasn’t doing the blog thing just to gain an audience for my book.
I was blogging for a lot of reasons that I had yet to realize.
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You haven’t heard of Life Block?
Well, look, you know what writer’s block is…
Life Block is writer’s block…but with life.
Allow me to explain…
When we have writer’s block, it’s usually either because
1. We are not informed enough on the subject at-hand
2. We’re fearful of the finished product (often subconsciously)
3. We’re simply too disinterested to put in the work.
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Look, there is this life.
And to fill in the vast interminableness of a space quite truly brief, we pepper it generously with “shoulds” and “should-nots”.
I should do this, because that, et cetera, et cetera.
Between the spaces of should and shouldn’t rise up small daisies of momentary desire.
Dinner parties, a good book, a good phone call, lingering upon a bench, day trips to a park, day trips at all…
We glance, or we sniff, or we stretch out a greedy hand and pluck our little distraction daisy to make it all our own.
I tend to be a plucker.
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An easy sprint and I’ve caught up with the person–that little brat–who just loooves to test herself.
Everything, everything fell off the wagon.
Meditation, daily writing (for the first time since September!), reading, fitness.
All of them. Just slipped away from an active routine as though they never existed at all.
Like a love affair gone sour, you bump into the spaces once filled and wave your hand through them, telling yourself that if it’s not there anymore, maybe it was never there at all.
They were there, and I’m still here, and it turns out everything is fine.
The coy side of me thinks it was all good fun.
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There is something about this living in isolation…
I don’t know what it all means yet, but I know it’s right for me at the moment.
How do I know?
I don’t know. It just feels right.
You get what I’m saying? No. Of course not, because that was all just meandering vague stream-of-consciousness babble.
Moving right along…
This past week was a strange one. I had a couple experiences in which I was exposed to other people my age.
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Very truly the most difficult part of this creative pursuit is not the creativity itself.
It’s not finding moments to work or ideas to explore. It’s not fighting the procrastination.
It’s keeping the faith.
I’m not a religious person, but I grasp what the whole faith thing is.
It’s believing in a thing for which there’s no proof.
That’s proof that you do work worth some tangible form of payment.
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And the quest moves ever forward.
Sorry I’m thinking/talking like that. (not sorry.)
I’ve been re-reading Lord of The Rings and given the lack of outside social interaction, Tolkien’s verbiage has taken over my brain a bit.
It’s month three of being an anti-socialite, and indeed I have to carefully navigate the waters of solitude lest I lost my edge. I don’t know what my edge is, but the sentiment there feels right.
There is this risk of my days turning into tunnels. Edit the book, build social media, build my empire, you know, routine stuff.
It’s easy to get lost in there.
So in a way, doing this Roundup holds me accountable to proving that I am not completely living in a bubble.
If there are five new things coming into my life each week, then I must be reaching out somehow or another. Right—right?!
On that note, let’s get to it, as item number one seems quite fitting for our little prologue.
As a society, we focus too much on the idea of feeling good.
Everybody should be happy, everybody should be fit, and everybody should feeeeel good!
But it turns out striving toward feeling “good” as our baseline is the wrong pursuit because let’s face it, we just won’t always feel that way.
Instead, if you read on I’ll tell you how to restructure your well-being in a way that’s pressure-free toward feeling good.
(sneak preview: Coincidentally, it turns out that restructuring will also cause you to feel good.)
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Last night I was talking with a fellow writer friend about those ego-crushing moments when I tell someone I’m a writer.
We all know what’s coming after this admittance:
“Oh, what have you written?”
I muster all the confidence and courage I can and say:
“I’m working on a book and I have a blog.”
Then I smile. Convincingly.
This is what we call a Sunday roundup.
I spent Friday from 4am until past 12am on Saturday either at an airport (16 hours) or in the sky (four hours).
I suppose I spent Saturday emerging from the rabbit hole.
On days like those it is very difficult for me not to beat myself up over lack of productivity. I wonder if listlessness strikes me particularly hard or if this is normal for everybody?
Let’s move on from the boo-hoo, though, for indeed I do have a roundup and a rather writerly one to boot.
The Sunday Friday Roundup:
Writing Hacks Edition
1. Hemingway App Editor
2. Big Notebooks
3. Forest App
4. Inversion Tables
Our brains are designed to protect us from those things because our brains are trying to keep us alive.
And in order to change, in order to build a business, in order to be the best parent, the best spouse—to do all those things that you know you want to do with your life, with your work, with your dreams—you’re going to have to do things that are difficult, uncertain, or scary.
Which sets up this problem for all of us: You’re never gonna feel like it.
Recently 30, I’ve pressed the reset button on my life and begun a quest to figure out how to shape this thing called life into exactly what I want. I’m self-educating (read: fumbling blindly) to learn how to make a living as a writer and how to be my own business. I’ll be documenting my progress, blabbling about my travels along the way, interviewing cool people, and hopefully making this fun and inspiring for all of us. Join the e-mail list, come along!